Missing That “Lost” Connection?
I believe in relationships. I believe in the power of them to heal and help us grow – to challenge us and bring us closer to ourselves. I have always been in love with love.
But that doesn’t mean they’re easy! Most of us learn how to “do” relationships by observing our parents. Some of us were raised with fantastic examples of clear communication, fair fighting tactics, rituals of connection, and calm, regulated discussion – but not very many of us! It’s very rare to learn how to be in relationship well. And just like people can use a coach to train for a triathlon, if you want to have an exceptional (or even not frustrating and disconnected) relationship, you may need some support.
Working with couples and facilitating their growth is a passion of mine – especially when we go through some hard material, some hurt, misunderstanding or disappointment is thick in the treatment room – and then something happens, something palpable shifts. A greater understanding and empathy emerges and each member of the couple is reminded of why they have chosen this person as their partner.
I’m currently a Level II trained in Stanley Tatkins’ Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. PACT integrates attachment theory, developmental neuroscience and arousal regulation. This approach helps couples develop secure-functioning relationships by understanding early attachment and its effect on brain and nervous system development, and its influence on current experience in relationship. Clinicians learn to help partners regulate each other’s emotions, maintain secure bonds; and foster positive, enduring relationships. PACT is quickly gaining a reputation for treating couples thought to be untreatable.
Sometimes what we need most is some straight forward advice. Relationships can feel confusing – from the first contact on Tinder to the 35th wedding anniversary! I’m here to help. My training and experience has given me lots of wisdom in understanding cycles, dynamics, personalities, attachment styles and more. And I have real-life tips and strategies to offer in almost any situation. You’ll come away from our conversations with tangible action steps to enliven and enhance your relationship OR have clarity around whether its time to separate!
Please call today; You might find that you are capable of more intimacy and connection than you ever knew possible.