Want to bring out the BEST in each other again… instead of the worst?

Couples Counseling can help you bring the romance, playfulness and connection back into your relationship – and it’s so much EASIER than you might think!

Join my Waitlist for Fall '24

No matter if you’re currently…

  • Living like two roommates
  • Frustrated that you can’t stop having that same argument over and over again
  • Separated, or on the brink of divorce
  • Miss having a hot sex life and feeling close
  • Or are doing “fine” – but are scared to repeat your parent’s mistakes and break up in the future…

I can help you end the pain, and start living the passionate, loving relationship you both are craving.

You’ll never have to look back with regret, and wonder if there was more you could have ​done to save your marriage… With Couples Therapy you can be confident that you finally know the secrets to great relationships!

Hi I’m Lily Eggers.

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who helps couples get beyond the struggle – and bring out the best in each other again.

Couples Counseling is going to help you:

  • Learn how to “do” conflict so you both feel heard, valued and respected.
  • Feel like supportive teammates at home, instead of adversaries.
  • Bring playfulness back into your world, and feel that spark of admiration again.
  • Ignite your attraction and have the BEST sex of your life!
  • And most importantly — remember why you fell in love in the first place!

Years ago, my own marriage was in trouble and I successfully transformed what felt like a nightmare situation, into my dream partnership.

​I’ve since helped countless other couples get past conflict, and create a healthy partnership that makes them feel understood, appreciated, and alive!

Clients are often surprised to tell me: “Hey Lily, healing our relationship wasn’t that HARD! We just didn’t have the tools!”

I’m here to give you the practical tools you need to start creating breakthroughs RIGHT NOW. No waiting 20 years, rehashing the same argument on repeat. We’ll start finding solutions for you both, right away.

My work goes beyond just talk therapy. I incorporate a somatic approach to counseling, which means that my work helps to get your nervous system on board with the positive changes we’re making.

I incorporate EMDR, somatic psychotherapy, and even love to work with psychedelic integration or Cannabis ceremony to help enhance the experience of intimacy and connection for a couple – though you’re welcome to choose what methods feel like a great fit for you.

I can promise you that I’ll listen to you BOTH with respect, no taking sides at all. And you can count on me to be a totally safe, non-judgmental source of support for you both in each session. I’m really committed to the success of your relationship, so that means that I’m also going to call you out on your bullshit too! (Which is what you want.)

I have a particular passion for helping couples get their sex life back on line, and if you’re a woman who struggles with any kind of self-confidence or sexual expression inhibition, that’s one of my areas of expertise – I’d love to work with you on that.

Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable.

– Mary Oliver

I’ll help you get the relationship you both want and deserve.

Lily Eggers is an LMFT #87580, with a Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies. She has been working clinically with couples for over 10 years and studying relationships for over 25 years. Lily lives with her husband and two children in Marin County, California and celebrates life by dancing, riding her bike, skinny dipping, hiking in the woods, consciously exploring psychedelics, and making music. Lily’s great sense of humor and down-to-earth nature will put you at ease from the very first session.

For more of Lily’s story, check out: About Lily

HAVE HOPE.

Yes, you REALLY CAN rekindle that energized, inspired feeling you both had in the beginning.

I see couples go from miserable to blissfully happy with each other all the time in my practice.

“We worked with Lily after months of struggle and challenge. At the moment we came to her, we were on the brink of separating. From our very short work together, Lily provided clear teachings and feedback. I cannot stress enough the impact Lily had by quickly identifying some key communication misfires and misunderstandings. I can say with 100% confidence that without her bringing our toxic patterns into our own awareness, we would not have survived much longer as a couple. We are not exaggerating when we say, Lily saved our relationship! A year later we were married and two kids later, we continue to use what we learned during our few sessions! Thank you, Lily!”

-Carole & Jeff

Yes, I’m Ready for a Better Relationship, Starting NOW!

I Offer Both Private Couples Counseling and Group Counseling.

No matter if you choose Private Sessions or my Group Coaching – both forms of Couples Therapy will give you real-life action steps to improve your relationship, OR you’ll gain clarity around whether or not it’s time to separate.

“Today…is my 1-year anniversary of loving myself.

I am a little over a year out of my relationship. Today would have been our 17th anniversary. Instead, it is my 1-year anniversary of loving myself.

I am so grateful to you for the kindness and compassion you extended to both of us during that most difficult time. I am grateful to you for reassuring me that I was going to be ok in the end…I am very happy and proud of how far I have come in just one year.

I wanted you to know that the ways in which you validated my experiences helped me for the first time in my life to trust my own truth rather than allow myself to be gas-lit by those around me. This was invaluable to me. I wanted to thank you Lily and let you know I’m doing well now!”
Anonymous

No, you don’t have to repeat your parent’s relationship mistakes.
There’s a better way …

I’m going to teach you the healthy skills about relationships that school didn’t teach you — and that your parents flat out didn’t know! Most of what you currently know you learned from watching your parents…and let’s be honest, they didn’t have it all figured out!

Your parents were doing the best they could, but they probably taught you some pretty messed up relationship dynamics.

Don’t you want to model a better relationship to your own kids?

If so, this is your chance to have a wonderful relationship that you can be proud of– FOR LIFE.

“Lily Eggers has brought love, kindness, communication and romance back into our marriage!

The love in our marriage had vanished over the years, communication and consideration was a rare occurrence between us. Overwhelmed with the chaos of family life — we spent most nights sleeping apart in separate bedrooms and our daytime interactions were filled with contention…

Lily Eggers has brought love, kindness, communication and romance back into our marriage! Lily’s insightful observations, and practical guidance on how to communicate has helped us learn how to embrace & appreciate each other again.
Passion, love and camaraderie have returned — and we are happy to share that we are now sleeping in the same bed nightly! Choosing Lily was the best decision we made and she was instrumental in helping us save our marriage, we are forever grateful for her.”

Elizabeth & Mark

When you bring out the best in each other — that’s when you get to live your BEST LIFE.

“I believe that having a great relationship helps you reach your full potential and achieve your dreams in life. Your marriage can become an amazing source of energy, support and inspiration for you if you invest in it.”
​ – Lily Eggers